I do this as a public service, not to imping on the commercial value of this DVD. I've found incredible nuggets of data available through this particular DVD. I've separately blogged that people should used this DVD as Bob Proctor recommends - listening to this every day for at least 30 days in order to re-program your thinkining over to continued, habitual use of the Law of Attraction.
This transcript is only a complilation of the subtitles, adding in the quotes which appear on-screen through that DVD. There is no attempt to link the various teachers with their quotes. I've edited this transcript with an eye to readability, keeping similar thoughts together in paragraphs.
Please enjoy and comment as you wish. But buy and give "The Secret" DVD. What this transcript covers has far more meaning when you read it after having listened to this DVD several times.
The Secret to Relationships
The Secret means for me actually that we are creators of our universe, and that every wish of what we want to create will manifest in our lives. Therefore it's very important what you wish, what your thoughts are, what your feelings are, because it will manifest.
Now, one day I went into somebody's home, and he was an art director, a very famous film producer. And in every corner he had this beautiful image of a woman, a naked woman, dressed with a fabric, kind of doing this, kind of saying, 'I don't look at you, I don't see you.' you know?
And I said, 'I think you have trouble in your romance.'
'Are you clairvoyant or something?'
'No, but look. Seven places, you have exactly that woman.'
'But I love that kind of painting. I painted it myself.'
'That's even worse,' I said.
'Because you put all your creation and creativity in it.'
Now he's this gorgeous looking man, he has all these actresses around him because that's the work he does. He doesn't get romance. I said, 'What do you want?'
'Well, I want to date three women a week.'
'Okay, paint yourself with three women, and hang it in every corner.'
Six months later I see him in Europe, and I said, 'How is your love life?'
'Great! They just call me, they want to date me.'
'Because that's your wish.'
'Now I have like three dates a week.
'They're fighting over me.'
'Good on you.'
'But I really want to stabilize a little bit.'
I want marriage, and I want romance.'
'Well, paint it, okay?'
So he painted a beautiful romantic relationship, and a year later he got married, and he's very happy. Because he put another wish out. But he wished it in himself for years, but it did not happen because his wish could not manifest because the outer level of himself, his house, was just contradicting himself all the time.
So if you know this knowledge, you should start playing with it.
Inside relationships, it's important to first understand who's coming into the relationship. And not your partner, but to understand yourself. How can you ever expect anyone else to enjoy your company if you don't enjoy your own company? And so again, the law of attraction or The Secret is about bringing that into your life, and you've got to get really, really clear.
Here's the question I would to ask you to consider: Do you treat yourself the way you want other people to treat you? You become the solution for you. Don't like, 'Now you owe me and you need to give me more.' instead, give more to yourself. Take time off to give to yourself, in a sense to fill yourself up to fullness, to where now you can overflow in giving.
I got into many relationships expecting my partner to show me my beauty. Because I didn't see my own beauty. See when I was growing up, my heroes or my she-roes, were the Bionic Woman, Wonder Woman, or Charlie's Angels. And while they're wonderful, they didn't look like me. It wasn't until I fell in love with Lisa, my mocha skin, my full lips, my round hips, my curly hair, It wasn't until that moment that I fell in love with me, that the rest of the world was able to fall in love with me as well.
There's something so magnificent about you. I have been studying me for 44 years. Mwa! I wanna kiss myself! Because you're gonna get to love yourself. I'm not talking about conceit. I'm talking about a healthy respect for yourself. And as you love yourself, you'll love others.
In relationships we're so used to complaining about other people. My co-workers are so difficult to work with, my husband makes me so mad, my children are so lazy. It's always focusing on the other person. But for relationships to really work, we need to focus on what we appreciate about the other person, not what we're complaining about. When we're complaining about those things we're only getting more of those things.
Even if you're having a really hard time in a relationship... things aren't working, you're not getting along, someone's in your face... you still can turn that relationship around.
Take a piece of paper, and for the next thirty days, once a day sit down and write all the things that you appreciate about that person. Think about all the reasons that you love them. You appreciate their sense of humor, you appreciate how supportive they are. And what you'll find is that when you focus on appreciating and acknowledging their strengths, that's what you'll get more of. And the problems will fade away.
We cannot control other people, no matter how hard we try. So what you'll find is if somebody's come home in a bad mood, and you're actually in a good mood, you'll find yourself in a different place from them in that moment. We create our own happiness through the law of attraction.
Often times, you give others the opportunity to create your happiness. And many times they fail to create it the way you want it. Why? Because only one person can be in charge of your joy, of your bliss. And that's you.
So even as a parent, as a child, as a spouse, even the people closest to you, they do not have the control to create your happiness. Your joy lies within you.
Other chapters to The Secret unauthorized transcript:
Chapter One - Introduction to the Secret
Chapter Two - Feelings
Chapter Three - How to Use the Secret
Chapter Four - Powerful Processes
Chapter Five - The Secret to Money
Chapter Six - The Secret to Relationships
Chapter Seven - The Secret to Health
Chapter Eight - The Secret to the World
Chapter Nine - The Secret to You
Chapter Ten - The Secret to Life